I'm Misofist (she/they), a proud non-binary trans woman, activist, kinkster, and amateur pornographer. I mostly write about trans issues, kink, and polyamory. You can find me on Fediverse as @Misofist@girlcock.club. If you'd like to buy some porn, check out my C4S store.
You know the autistic / transfem / traumatised (not sure which exactly) thing where someone confronts you about how you’ve caused harm and you just instantly believe them and apologise and apologise and apologise.
I love the way that bruises develop. Think about that word, “develop”. Doesn’t it make you think of chemical photography?
Being slapped or punched or cropped or paddled happens in an instant. The pain is momentary, you can’t keep it, but in its ephemerality there is value.
And yet, much like a photo, bruises capture a longer record of an instant. They might not last as long as a photo, but that just encourages you to renew them regularly.
When I am covered in bruises, I am covered in mementos. And I am covered in art.
Maybe it’s the autism talking but conditional love is better than unconditional love.
Something that I wish more people were aware of when they are discussing media is: Just because something is justified by the story, doesn’t mean it wasn’t a choice that the author made to include it.
I’ve been thinking for a while about my sexuality and how I’d define it. And honestly with all the complexities of identity and presentation, I kinda think it’s impossible to come up with an objective definition for lesbian attraction that includes everyone who would want to be included and excludes everyone who would want to be excluded. Let alone whether that 100% accurately matched whatever it is in my brain that decides whether someone is attractive to me or not.
Even if you don’t practice kink, even if you don’t have sex, you should still have a safeword and discuss it with your partner(s). I used my safeword for the first time last week, and it wasn’t part of a kink scene at all.
