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Recently I’ve been seeing a lot of bickering discourse between transmascs and transfems; fights about transmisogyny and transandrophobia; lateral violence and idpol.
I think it comes from a fundamental disagreement about how to apply feminist theory to trans people. At its root: does patriarchy oppress women, or does it oppress AFAB people?
I think a big divide between liberal assimilationists and leftist queer liberationists is a willingness to confront inconvenient nuance.
If you are insulting someone you don’t like, this necessarily requires that the thing you are using to insult them is something you consider bad or shameful.
An argument that I’ve seen before is that trans women don’t experience male privilege and it’s transphobic to suggest otherwise. Let’s dig into this, shall we?
I watched Wendell & Wild today. Siobhan is kind of a model of how to approach leftism as a privileged person.
She says something outside of her lane that’s well-meaning but naive, and gets harshly rebuked by someone with lived experience.
She doesn’t whine or get defensive or demand they explain themselves, instead she goes away and does her own research. And once she’s learned, she apologises, and then enthusiastically joins the fight.
We should all strive for this energy.
