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Misofist

I'm Misofist (she/they), a proud non-binary trans woman, activist, kinkster, and amateur pornographer. I mostly write about trans issues, kink, and polyamory. You can find me on Fediverse as @Misofist@girlcock.club. If you'd like to buy some porn, check out my C4S store.

  1. I had a dream that I was arguing fiercely with my dad about something but mid-argument he called me by my chosen name for the first time. And I had this weird mix of being angry / fired up still for whatever we were arguing about, but also feeling really pleased at the effort he was making, and thinking what a touching way it was to subtly remind me how much he cares about me even when we are arguing.

    And now that I’m awake and know it didn’t happen I’m having a tough time processing it.

    Like I don’t think I’d ever get angry at someone for something they did in a dream, but it’s a bit harder to disregard positive feelings I have from a dream. I don’t know if I want to discard them. Let me cling to the unreality.

    Published 2024-04-05.
  3. Content warning: transphobia, family

    Has anyone ever written a satire article about how to respond to your child coming out as trans? It could include things like:

    • Repeatedly tell them how the fact they didn’t come out sooner has permanently damaged the trust in your relationship. Never mind that coming out is notoriously difficult, this is about you.
    • Tell them that every conversation you’ve ever had with them feels like it was meaningless, and that you don’t know who they are.
    • Constantly ask them to “pause” taking their HRT. When they reply that pausing it will permanently affect their transition, act like this is new information every single time.
    • Tell them that because of them the whole family is now in therapy. When they ask what the therapists are doing because it doesn’t seem to be working, tell them that the therapy’s not about them and act like they’re a narcissist for thinking that it was.
    • Write them a 7 page letter talking about how you can’t accept their identity, and make sure to source it with lots of articles about detransitioning
    • Show up to their house unannounced so you can argue with them
    • Wake them up with a phone call to say lots of transphobic things. If you start to feel guilty about this, hang up without apologising.

    Asking because it’d be funny to send to my parents.

    Published 2023-10-30.